I'm doing a three part write-up while she's gone on:
1. Why missions matter. (last week)
2. How "we" worked together on this.
3. Time apart. (later this week)
Quickly I learned that marriage is a 100% shared experience. "I and me" get replaced with "we". Thailand is a project that will affect Sarah in big ways and Matt in big ways. Sarah has the primary pressure of committing and funding and going on this project. Matt has the support pressure of helping in every way possible.
Sarah and I work together very well on these types of projects. She's more of an emotional person and I'm more of a rational person, so when we brainstorm together the ideas pitched are fresh.
- Example 1: Direct Fundraising - Sarah knew to directly ask some people, I helped her refine her "educating pitch" and we worked together to get the word out.
- Example 2: Bake Sale - Sarah loves making tasty food. I thought "why not do a bake sale?", but rather than a 1-time event we could do an ongoing bake sale. She scoured the internet for recipes (something I am NOT talented at) and we found a very rewarding avenue for support and awareness raising.
- Example 3: Travel - Sarah had never been out of the country, so we worked together on the passport process and travel plans process. I'm pretty skilled at project management, so I made sure all the t's were crossed and the i's were dotted. Sarah thought more of the people she'd be interacting with, packing heartfelt, memorable things to share once she got there.
An important note: this is NOT something I'm "letting my wife do". This is something we're doing together, willingly and enthusiastically. Wherever this leads, we're doing that together, too. Once you start a relationship power struggle, we think you start taking steps backwards. This is not HER vs. ME, this is WE. There is no "compromising" or "allowing", only doing.
I trust Sarah and her faith in Jesus. If she feels called to do something, then WE'RE called to do something.