Where should we be married? Who should officiate it? What dates do we aim for? Once we both agreed a short engagement (less than 6 months), we got to planning.
Why a short engagement? My short, real answer:
- Sarah's lease came up in June. It just made sense to be married and move in together before that date. We made a list of weekends (about 12 possible) and began narrowing it down based on scheduling conflicts. 12 weekends became 2 weekends and April won the vote.
- Being engaged stinks! As soon as we were engaged, we knew we were committed to each other. It's hard committing to someone... then waiting to be with them. Long-distance dating was hard and we wanted to begin life together, not live in limbo. After marriage counseling was complete, we were really ready for that next step.
- Summer is peak season and we wanted a conservative wedding. April prices vs. May/June/July prices were considerably less for a number of wedding purchases and rentals. Sarah and I talked financials and established early a 2-year plan that we intended to keep.
- We met people who pulled it off. One couple at our church had a 2 month engagement! A few others had sub-6 month successes and plenty of people said they wished they had shorter engagements. This was encouraging as we knew it could be done.
- Our priority was a Christian marriage. All the other "normal" wedding things were, to us, a bonus but not a requirement. This likely led to some people feeling rushed or hurt as their expectations for "Matt & Sarah's Wedding" were different than our expectations for "Matt & Sarah's Wedding."
There are many ways to do a wedding project and we wouldn't change a thing. Well, maybe a few details :) BUT it would still be April 5, 2014.