One of the conversations Matt and I had early on in dating had to do with the common relationship word, “love.” Specifically in regards to the three words when strung together are oh so powerful, “I love you.”
For us, waiting to say “I love you” until we were married, until we both were committed to be a team together for the rest of our lives, had to do with two utmost reasons:
- To preserve the sacredness of love.
- To teach us more deeply the sacredness of love.
So, on love, here is part one of (an ever-growing!) what we are learning in our marriage...
Learning to live with love and in love is wonderful and it is stretching.
It is wonderful, for one, because my marriage with Matt is a beautiful example of Christ’s love towards us. This love is unconditional, forgiving, and committed.
It is stretching because love supersedes our feelings. And oh how our feelings can deceive us into veering in the direction of misery, of bitterness, of selfishness. Marriage gives the opportunity to learn about one another’s uniqueness and then to not only accept, but adapt. Whether it be passions, quirks, or areas of interest. Doing so breeds the awesome opportunity to love the other for their uniqueness, even the quirks, just as Christ loves ours.
“Love is not dependent on the highs and lows of life. It is dependent on a commitment of will. Love is not blown back and forth by winds of change, circumstances or environmental influences. Even though emotions may be fickle and jump from one extreme to another, I have chosen to love ... and that choice is sustained by an uncompromising will.”
-Dr James Dobson